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andrue2:

toughasbro:

thatsnothowitworks:

We’re not.  We are men who are sick of the bullshit that is surrounding our medical problems: people who aren’t trans ID’ing as “transqueer genderfuck ftm trannybois who love glittery high heels and their tits”, people who “love ftms and want to ‘get in touch’”, and other shit.  People think we should be “body-loving tranzbois” or something. 

Amen to this so fucking much.

This anon is a man. That’s the thing. I’m a man that does manly things, feels like a man, and knows what his body should look like. The part that falls over is the fact that it doesn’t look like that.

End of story.

And the trans********* community DESPISES that. They absolutely fucking despise that there are people within ‘their community’ that ID as male, act like men, and make no exceptions in that. THAT is why most of us are anon… because the ‘community’ is full of frightening fucks that will bully, harrass, stalk, abuse and threaten people that don’t abide by their ‘rules’. This is regardless of whether we want to be part of their ‘community’ or not - because we contain some female parts thanks to a birth fuckup, we’re dragged into their heap kicking and screaming.

I don’t want to be a part of it. And I don’t consider 99% of these people to have ANYTHING in common with me whatsoever. They are females with footnotes at best for the most part in my opinion, with a few very rare exceptions. I’m a man with some assembly required.

Not a transman. Not a transboy. Not a demiguy. There is no motherfucking prefix. Man. Just man. A human of the male variety.

Speaking of footnotes, I also despise that I get harrassed about having entirely male stereotypical interests, and despise that it’s interpreted as me trying too hard, or considering gender to be ruled by interests. It’s fucking hard being stuck in a female body and being told you can’t love the things you love, or you’re just doing it for sex and attention, or you’re not as good as everyone else, simply because of it. It’s a major fucking point of contention in my life.

Imma reiterate the point. I am a man. A bloke, a dude, a guy. And for that reason, I have nothing in common with the ‘community’. I want nothing to do with your hive-mind/collective, I will not be assimilated, and I have no femininity to embrace no matter how much you abuse me into ‘confessing’.

And it’s because I am just an average guy that I, along with many others, have to be anon… because simply being who we are, let alone calling the bullshit from the tryhards, is enough to be stalked and harrassed into the never-never.

…I get (I think) where you’re coming from, but it’s really problematic to define “manly.”

It’s comments like that that end up with people accusing me of not being sincere in my male identity because I figure skate and that’s a “girly sport.”

I feel like a man, know what my body SHOULD look like (and just straight-up doesn’t yet) and I do manly stuff.

Like figure skate, write, dance, and CRY.

And I do all of those things like a man.

Jesus. It’s fine if you’re ranting about the trans community’s BS attempts to try to get you to fit into an idea they as a whole have of you.

Not all of us who identify as trans (or just male, for that matter, as I do) want or expect conformity. I don’t even understand why anyone (cis, trans, or what.freakin’.ever) would try to force people into interests that don’t appeal to them.

…or, y’know, shame them by somehow qualifying their manhood as separate or somehow better because you like fixing up cars as opposed to, say, writing poetry.

I’m not even sure who I’m frustrated at now. Just know the frustration’s there.

ETA: I may have misunderstood some of this though. If someone’s trying to force you to take on a term like transman/boi/whatever, that’s a load of bullshit on their end. No one needs to ID as trans as a caveat when they say they’re a man. That’s just ridiculous.

Also really resent the “females with footnotes” bit. I’m not out as trans yet. Why? Because that takes some finangling with a full-time job, two part-time ones, a conservative family, et al.

Am I any less of a man because I have to endure my female name at work, or because I haven’t been able to get surgery yet (thanks for the rejection, btw, insurance company)? I don’t think so. But this implies I’m just a female who likes to dress up in men’s clothing. Fuck that noise. My friends and chosen family know who I am and refer to me accordingly. And I’m sure as hell not going to give up figure skating (or even spend $2000 on a new pair of skates so they’re black instead of white) just because it’s not viewed as manly enough by someone else’s arbitrary standards.

The mentality above Andrew’s also concerns me, although I’m not sure I have a right to opine on the subject at all.

I’ll consequently keep this short.

I would potentially fall under the OP and OP2’s definition of “females with footnotes” because I don’t engage in traditionally male-centric activities.

I’m a professional ballet dancer, and a gay, cisgender man. My mannerisms tend to be occasionally effeminate. I love ballet, fashion, and interior design.

Am I more of a man than you because my anatomy and gender identity match up, or less because I’m simply not interested in football or NASCAR?

People need to respect other individuals’ identities, plain and simple. If you identify as a man, you are a man. If you prefer terms that fall under the transgender/sexual umbrella, that’s fine too.

There is no one way to be male or manly, in my view. It took me long enough to realize that, given an upbringing in rural Nebraska. It’s unfortunate when others find the need to impose their views of what it is to be a man (or perhaps even FtM) on others, one way or another.

-Jonathan

sorikushipper:

ooc- My hubby is so cute.  And never gets any sexual innuendos.  

Any.

Love you, Jonathan. ;p

That’s hardly accurate.  I was distracted with stretching.  You saw. :)